As ever, @DedicatedPeeler has stepped in to clear muddied waters: My blog on Friday was a direct response to the emotional hurt that was related to me by officers. In his second paragraph Gareth highlights that that is an important issue to address. He recognised that the wellbeing of officers is critical to maintain if meaningful debate is to be had:
“The reason I’ve decided to blog, is that the info that is out there is sparse. I can’t comment on other’s communications, or indeed other people’s opinion, as it is theirs. I also don’t contend how people ‘feel’ about this. It is their prerogative and totally individual. I can shine a light on some of the research that I found and why a lot of the myths/concerns around at the minute don’t stack up. It may help paint some foreground and some background into the debate, and context is always so important.”
He then goes on to explain exactly what the decision means and frames it in a wider context. It is vital for Officers to have clear information and where the college of Policing has neglected to provide this clearly Gareth has stepped up.
You can read his full blog here: http://http://wp.me/p4UkzN-1y
It is an excellent example of his work which is always factually based, and mindful of the audience he is speaking to. He finishes his blog with another statement which highlights why I have so much time and respect for him:
“As a final note, the slating of graduates as police officers has just been shocking. I have met some cops who have been poor who have been graduates, I’ve also met some cops who weren’t graduates, who were also poor. That is a recruitment/development issue and not an educational one. Tarring educated cops as ‘bag carriers’ is nothing but anti-intellectualism and serves no other purpose than to divide. Gone are the days when graduates entering the profession was rare, it’s just a pity that the same attitudes have stuck around despite the world moving on. This is a debate that we need to have, at least keep it civil and respectful – as befits the service which we represent.”
I sincerely hope that the debate can continue with this same level of mindfulness, I just wish that the source had of been the College itself, not an individual.
I like to think that I am an open person, both personally and professionally, approachable and non judgemental, but that is too simple. We all have to make judgements continually in order to survive in the world. So what does it really mean? In my professional life I use unconditional positive regard as the bridge for relational understanding of the person speaking with me. It is a vital tool for communication often of the most traumatic kind. However professional one is, the effects of hearing another’s trauma affects one’s own being, simply as transference or projection. Acknowledging this inwardly yet keeping it about the person with you is not simple and takes a toll which one needs to be mindful of and process. The *magic chair* that others have spoken of. All the while having one’s boundaries around your core in place and your phaser set on stun!
Is that boundary a barrier? It can be! My mind likes to think of it as a permeable membrane which filters what comes through and what is allowed out. Most people use barriers in their lives predominantly to prevent the outside gaining entry into their core. I have been thinking about how much I use my boundaries to prevent the leeching out of me! If I wasn’t careful I could unleash myself unchecked upon an unsuspecting person with all the negative implications that has for both of us. A paradox then, being open yet mindfully boundaried for mutual protection. I’m aware of how condescending that sounds with me taking the primary decision over what comes in and goes out. Fluid as it will be different strengths and styles for different people.
Now for the not so comfortable part, personally… how can a person who values openness and respects boundaries be so hidden in themselves? Why does the desire to be seen and understood for who I am not supercede those barriers? I give glimpses of the wolf to a couple of people, but in the background, surrounded by forest, metaphorically speaking. Discernment and instinctively ruled my choices are less fluid in my personal life. A control freak who loves ambiguity and spontaneity, who would have thought it, another paradox!
Convenient theories and rationale excuse my self behaviours, I am growing and travelling along life’s path, observing, testing and pondering meanwhile the core stays hidden in the shadows, revelling in the darkness, enjoying the power of solitude and yet at times it can become lonely…
Thanks for letting me share part of the process I go through as I formulate my values, it’s so cathartic!