What I find attractive in a man…

15 Jan

Wolf eyes

I saw a post a few days ago via @vprc888 which was supposed to list 10 things men do that they are unaware of that women find sexy.  I found that none appealed to me.  I decided to think about what I find attractive.  Purely self indulgent but here is my list!

1. Integrity:  I find it absolutely imperative that a man says and does what he has stated he will do in both public and private.

2. Intelligence and Wit:  To me nothing is more appealing than a man who knows *stuff* but plays with his knowledge in a mischievous way.

3. Empathy:  Someone who is capable of trying to understand as best as he can how someone else feels.

4. Active Listening:  Not all people can make the person who is speaking with them feel as if they are the focus of their attention.  I find observing this skill being used for another more beautiful than if I am the one speaking and being listened to.

5. Willingness to be wrong:  How easy to be in the company of a man who will take the time to think about his actions and words…roll them around in his mind, if he finds he has fallen short of his own standards, takes steps to redress or minimise any negative effect.  Again beautiful to observe from a distance and personally.

6.Enthusiasm:  that light of passionate belief in his eyes that makes his whole being resonate with the expectancy of the fruition of what he believes in.

7. Humility: Certainly not a doormat (that is not the Lupine way!) yet aware of the people around him in a sensitive way, cognisant of his own abilities.  Striving to improve them.

8. Eyes:  That both take in his whole surroundings and give an affirming reflection back to the person engaging with him.

9. Willingness to take a stand:  If he sees something is wrong, he is willing to stand up and be counted.  Even if this puts him in a vulnerable position himself.

10. Natural:  He may be any shape or size.  The other attributes are far more important than any external features.

This  has given me much pleasure to meditate upon.  What is important to you?

Jules 🙂


8 Responses to “What I find attractive in a man…”

  1. Nikofire January 16, 2014 at 12:04 am #

    Great Read before bed

  2. Gede Prama January 16, 2014 at 4:41 am #

    thank you, the article and the true happiness rays began to warm hearts, when we share it with sincerity. Greetings from Gede Prama 🙂

  3. Stephen Grinstead (@HumGrin) January 16, 2014 at 10:53 am #

    How does a “mere” man answer that? Only by saying OMG you are asking a lot from us Jules, you know we can’t multi task. But as a “mere” man what do I want from a partner? Goodness knows, but I think it is just something that emanates from the person, something that in yester year used to be called “IT” and I think most people have “it” in someones eyes?

    • julieanneda January 16, 2014 at 10:58 am #

      I sincerely wish that everyone was that in someone else’s eyes. The other gentle point is I am not *asking* for that in a man. I’m observing to *see* that in a man. Important yet subtle difference xx

      • Stephen Grinstead (@HumGrin) January 16, 2014 at 12:02 pm #

        Well, I was endeavouring to fulfil at least one of your desires, that of humour, the rest? Well that’s for others to say.
        But seriously don’t you think that what you or I see in a person is different to what others see? Ergo, If I see those qualities you mention in a person, perhaps others don’t? But I do understand what you are saying.
        But, will/do you settle for some or must you have all?

      • julieanneda January 16, 2014 at 12:03 pm #

        Yes I would agree with that Stephen and having met you I know you fulfil my criteria for friend which is all of the above! X

      • Stephen Grinstead (@HumGrin) January 16, 2014 at 12:44 pm #

        Aaahhh, wasnt fishing Jules, but thank you and you mine. 🙂

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